Release the triggers of photos with EFT/tapping!

Several months ago one of my classmates from 6th grade posted our 6th grade group photo on Facebook.  As I looked,  I was really shocked and then saddened.  I didn’t have that photo as my family didn’t have the money to buy them and I don’t remember ever seeing it.  Oh boy, did I need to do some EFT/ tapping as I looked at the photo as I was anxious all of a sudden, shocked and saddened.  I could feel it in my chest and it was painful on many levels.

The photo was taken within the first year of moving with my family to North Conway, NH from Pennsylvania.  That was a tough time for many so I know I am not alone. However, at the time, I felt alone even though I was surrounded by 8 siblings and 2 parents.   We had moved in my 5th grade year in April and this was my 6th grade so it was the first year in a new place.

i was trying to fit in, I felt like a fish out of water, my clothes were different, my hair was different and I had an accent from Pennsylvania.  Plus I was preadolescence.  I shared my feelings with my mother that I wished we hadn’t moved and she reacted badly to my feelings.  I know now but didn’t realize then that she felt the same way.  She and my Dad were working and trying to make ends meet and were overwhelmed.  From that experience, I learned to keep certain feelings to myself (sometimes good and bad) which cost me in many ways through the years but I also learned to be self sufficient.  Speaking my truth is different these days as the tapping has changed my perspective and I find myself automatically speaking what is on my mind in a way that I feel heard.

When I looked at the picture I had 3 distinct memories come up that were bothersome to me and knew that I needed to do some taping to release the negative aspects of them and create balance.

Around the time that the picture was taken, I almost accidentally killed myself and my family by almost burning the house down in our first winter in NH.  I went to bed one night in the cold as our furnace had broken and my parents couldn’t afford to replace it at the time and we were using space heaters to keep warm.  I had one in my 3rd floor bedroom next to my bed.   I went to sleep and I presume when I went to sleep I accidentally hit the space heater that was in a chair next to the bed and it fell on my bed.  I was asleep and thank god that I have been a sleep talker all my life. Evidently,  I was talking in my sleep, “fire, there is a fire or words to that affect”,  and annoying my older sister who was in the other 3rd floor bedroom across the hall.   I annoyed her so much that she came storming in the bedroom to yell at me to “shut up”, when she discovered my bed was aflame.

She left me there (recently she told me that I looked awake but frozen and couldn’t move and she couldn’t get to me) and yelled for our Dad to come which he did by practically flying up the stairs with my brothers who picked up the mattress together, opened the window and threw the mattress out.  It was still smoldering the next morning in the NH snow.  I don’t recall actually how my dad got me out of the bed but he pulled me out and I don’t recall having any  burns.

If I had known about EFT or my family had known how we could process and resolve our negative feelings which in turn may have helped us make better decisions.  We would have been encouraged to speak our truth even if it was negative and learn self-care in a way that really works.  My energy system has been out of balance all these years from this event and tapping is perfect for balancing it and resolving any of my feelings of sadness, shame, shock and anxious feelings.  I can now look at the photo with self compassion for myself and all my classmates.  Plus I have great pride in how hard my parents worked to do what they thought was best.

When I saw the photo, which I have posted below. I am the third row down and second from the left.  I did some tapping on my own to the photo itself as tapping to photos is a perfect way to tap on your own but I knew I needed another EFT Practitioner to help me as I knew that this is one of those times when you need someone to help you.

Thank you, Jennifer Moore,  who worked with me on the memory of the fire and another memory with my other sister who yelled at me to “shut up” and kicked me when we were sharing a bed.  I had come down with appendicitis and was moaning in my sleep.  I was taken to the hospital and had my appendix out and when my sister woke up in the morning she found this out.  She felt guilty all these years and I have totally forgiven her but I have great compassion for her as she was only 8 or 9 years old and I was 11.

I also thank Becki Stevens, who worked with me on the incident with my mother and used a process called ” Matrix Reimprinting“.

After tapping on myself and working with these 2 highly qualified advanced EFT Practitioners over many months, when I look at the photo, I laugh because I realize that I have a similar hair style and part in the middle of my bangs.  I can truly say that this period of  my life has been truly resolved.   I know this because there are no triggers when looking at the photo, noticing the bangs and the part with laughter and have an appreciation for that time in my life.

The best gift we can give ourselves and our children is self-knowledge and power for self care.

I urge you to start teaching your children how to do this.  There are many EFT/tapping books on amazon to help your children but please get some professional guidance before you do tapping with your children.  I would say work with someone first so you can confidently tap with your children and teach them to tap so they can use it for themselves for school and all the number of things that are stressful.  However for an event, like a fire, accident or highly charged event reach out for a trained EFT Practitioner.

If you would like to have a private consultation to discuss how I can help you and/or your child please contact me today.


Stress Relief is one of the benefits of EFT but it can go much further!

I am pleased to share this testimonial with you from my client, Carol.   Before starting any tapping please read my disclaimer. 

I met Barbara during a tapping demonstration she did for an event I attended a year ago. I was well aware of the benefits of tapping and had used it on myself with relief from stress. But I never could stick with it and I felt I was working on the surface of my emotions. When I met Barbara it was like, “now I am ready to do some work” and the teacher appeared! I was ready to work on some deep seated issues that might help me get off some of my medications (rheumatoid arthritis medications and an antidepressant). I found Barbara to be very open and kind. As we worked together over time ( we meet on Skype) I began to work on my uncomfortable childhood memories that I never could have done on my own. I trust her and she is nonjudgmental. I have been able to feel the emotions, let them go and put them in a box to bury them. I’ve even been able to discontinue my antidepressants and experience orgasm’s for the first time in years ; ) I feel so fortunate to have met Barbara and do the spiritual and emotional work I need to do to help myself with my health condition so I can enjoy life to its fullest. Thanks so much Barbara. You are a blessing in my life. Carol from NH

It is a joy to work with Carol as I note each session she reports positive changes in her life.  Carol has medical professionals who she also works with on a regular basis for her medications.  I don’t recommend reducing medications and send my clients to medical professionals for their advice

.   If you have been tapping by yourself and are inconsistent so you are getting inconsistent results like Carol did, having an EFT Coach to work with may help you truly make the changes that you always wanted to make.  Call me today for your free 20 minute consultation.

How to feel better fast using EFT!

We all want to feel better when we are upset, down, or feeling negative.  Not only do we want to feel better but we want to be able to know what our next step is.   We want our lives to change but we have been doing the same things over and over again. When we are stressed our brains don’t work really well and it is hard to figure out what to do.   I really can’t think of any solutions if I am upset.  I stay stuck on where I am.

I personally found that EFT or tapping is the quickest way to feel better fast.  It is amazing how after tapping, I am able to naturally think a solution.  Now, I also have been a follower of Abraham-Hicks teaching for a long time.   Abraham talks about allowing the past of least resistance or the path of allowing.   Abraham also talks about pivoting to the better feeling.   Abraham talks about it only takes 68 seconds to get the shift to start feeling better feeling thoughts.

This is where EFT or tapping comes in.   EFT is a great addition to listening to Abraham because the tapping helps to release the negative emotions that are in your way which helps you get into a positive vibration.  Abraham calls it being in your vortex.

Are you out of your vortex?  Would you like help in getting back on track and in your vortex?

I am using EFT and other coaching techniques for overwhelmed and stressed professionals who are not only feeling better but their lives are changing for the better.  Yesterday I had the privilege to work with one of my clients who is reporting that her challenges are getting less each week and she is getting use to the wins and expecting them that are happening daily!  Are you ready to make changes and allowing something better in your life?  Start right now, and call me today for your free confidential consultation!

Our Greatest Self does not mean our Perfect Self!

I recently went to see Nick Ortner from “the tapping solution” at the 10th Annual Natural Living Expo.  I always love these Expos and have been to about 8 to 10 of them throughout the years.  I was first introduced to EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) about 10 + years ago at one of these Expos.   As those who know my story, I saw it several more times and I was further drawn to it as a healing tool to increase confidence and speaking your truth and in 2012, I took my first EFT Workshop with Ingrid Dinter and now am an AAMET Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and assisting Overwhelmed and Stressed Professionals.

I have never seen Nick before in person and was excited as his presentation was very valuable to my own growth as a person and a practitioner.  Please check out his site by looking at his  Practitioner list which I am pleased to be one of them.

His talk was very heartfelt, supportive and encouraging to the Practitioners in the room and those who wanted to know more.  He was reminding us that our greatest self is not our perfect self.  We did some group tapping and he tapped on stage with 3 women on their physical pain which all had results in a very short time.

For me, the main take away from the workshop is that manifesting your greatest self, doesn’t mean that we have to be perfect.  Just speaking that our loud and tapping on it was very releasing.  Many of us have a hard time with that concept and feel that we must be perfect somehow.  We are not born that way but we certainly learn that as we go along in life.

Actually I find that is a common core issue with many of my clients.   This does a lot of damage to our self esteem as we are always so hard on ourselves.  We think, mistakenly in my opinion that being critical of ourselves is how we improve when actually the opposite is true!

I am reminded of what Louise Hay, said in one of my favorite quotes,  “Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked.  Try approving of yourself and see what happens”.

The whole nature of EFT and it’s set up, helps each and every one of us, release the hold of our own critical thoughts.  Watch what happens to your voice, your confidence and your self-esteem when you release some of your critical thoughts.

I would love to help you manifest your best self by looking at those critical thoughts that have been preventing you from living the life you are meant to lead.  Please contact me today for your free, 20 minute confidential consultation.